Stepping Out As A Couple Without Our Baby

Last night was the first time my boyfriend and I went out on our own in the evening for a few hours since Arlo was born. I really just wanted to share my little venture out as a new mum and highlight how positive the experience was to hopefully inspire any other new mums thinking about leaving their little one for the first time. I will start off by saying that I feel really blessed to have a great support unit on both sides of our families and personally would not have felt comfortable, with Arlo being so young, leaving him with anyone else but our immediate relations. My mum was great, and I felt completely relaxed about Arlo in her care and I think that was one of the main reasons my boyfriend and I enjoyed our time out together so much.

Putting on a red lip after scoffing down a chicken salad, it was the solo commute I was looking forward to most. Living in London, I know all too well about battling to get from A to B on public transport however the thought of standing on a busy bus or a packed tube did not worry me as it would usually; honestly, I was actually really looking forward to riding through the city on my own. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love going on walks with Arlo but travelling on public transport isn’t the easiest with a large pram. Lots of tube stations, including the one closest to my house, do not have step free access so travelling on my own is near impossible without having to ring up your friend that you’re meant to be meeting and get her to come and get you to help you carry the pram down the billion steps and never ending escalators onto the platform (shoutout to Nikki if your reading- thanks babe).

Once I arrived and we walked to the venue, after the first cocktail, it was just like old times. Actually, it really could have been us a year ago. We actually recalled one of our famous drunken nights out across the road from where we were. The only thing that was different was the purpose of our outing (and the fact that we wasn’t on a mission to get hammered). This time, it was for more of a professional purpose. Due to the nature of my boyfriend’s job, invites to different events and private launches have been coming in recently and I wasn’t going to turn down free drinks and food. So after a couple of pretty cocktails and trendy mini burgers, mac and cheese balls, sweet potato fries and anything else that I probably shouldn’t have eaten with such willingness, it was a lovely night. What was even lovelier was how my boyfriend and I knew when the right time was to leave.

Arlo was sound asleep so I was able to get a few hours rest before he woke up for his night feed. Everything had worked out perfectly. I know it’s not always going to be as easy as maybe last night was but I wanted to share our positive experience with anyone apprehensive about going out for the first time without their little one.

As we got in my mum had said he was sound asleep and when we saw him all cozy I did feel a little bit of relief as it meant I just just had enough time to take my makeup off before bed… A rarity!

Tips for new mums planning on going out for the first time without their baby 

  1. Make sure that you and your partner are completely satisfied with the environment you will be leaving your baby in so you can both relax once you are out; there would be no point going out if you was both on edge- you may as well of stayed in.
  2. Plan your day. There’s nothing worse than being disorganised and rushing around before going out. Obviously getting ready isn’t going to be as smooth as it would have been before becoming a mum, but just make sure your outfit and makeup is ready and set out where you can find it easily as no doubt you’ll be feeding or changing nappies in-between applying your concealer.
  3. For breastfeeding mums make sure you’ve expressed enough milk. Arlo is quite demanding on the breast, so having plenty of milk for my mum to give him was my mission. I even expressed a little bit more for me to feed him from the bottle during the night feed after we got back. This is because I’d had a couple of cocktails during the evening and wanted to ensure I was giving the alcohol even more time to leave my body before feeding Arlo from the breast.
  4. This is your time as a couple to really enjoy one another so make the most of it. It’ll lift your spirits and give you a change of scenery for a few hours. And honestly you can’t beat that feeling we got when we was on our way home knowing who we would be coming home to. Our little man.




  1. Norma
    October 12, 2017 / 6:33 pm

    That was a joy to read well done and what a lovely idea x norma x

    • October 13, 2017 / 8:13 am

      Thanks Norma! Glad you enjoyed xx

  2. Emilie Marshall
    October 13, 2017 / 12:08 pm

    Mills what a lovely read! A little snippet of how you are all doing- how far you have come from the first day we looked at your uni and now your writing blogs about being a mummy! All sounds lovely 💜

    • October 15, 2017 / 11:20 am

      Aw thanks Emilie! That means a lot! It’s crazy to think back to us visiting the uni hope you’re well xxx

  3. Kat (aka @triumphantf)
    December 31, 2017 / 1:05 am

    This was beautiful! Thanks so much for sharing 🙂

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